What is romance?

What’s your definition of romantic?

Someone devoted to me and me alone

Someone who brings peace into my home

A person whom I can converse with for days at length

Someone who unselfishly gives me strength

Do you believe in the power of God to heal?

My experience tells me the blessings are real

He knows what I need, so I’ll wait patiently

For someone who can grow with me

Will you laugh when I laugh? Cry when I cry?

Gaze with me into the night sky?

Can you share your thoughts with me?

If I ask for them delicately?

I want to be your everything

Just as you are mine

I’d be there to support you

Until the end of time

I don’t usually think of myself as romantic. So it’s difficult to put a finger on what it is for me. Traditional romance wouldn’t work for me anyway, I’m not generally impressed by anything showy or over the top. If the person knew me they would know that’s not what I like. So I guess romance for me is knowing your partner so well that you know what they need.

I had a partner some years ago that i vibed with intellectually and philosophically. When we were alone we could debate topics for hours. He loved to show me off to friends, and that might be considered romantic to some. For me it was awkward and uncomfortable, being that I deeply dislike groups of people. I would clam up and ignore the stares of people wondering why I wasn’t speaking…why he was even with me.

I intentionally closed my heart off after we broke up, but found myself in a situationship a year later, and those continued until May of 2024. It’s been one year and I’ve finally taken time to heal. I know I’m not done with the internal work but I’m getting there. Today I am 1 month sober. It hasn’t been easy but I’m coming back home to myself and maybe one day, someone will cross my path and I’ll be taken aback by the romance I’ve convinced myself that I can’t stand 🙄

Gotta keep your heart open, right?


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